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.. Emphasis was on the baby, and there was no thought of her needs as a mother who had just given birth. It was better the next morning.
Binding to the baby in the neonatology clinic | Topics, parents' experience with neonatology, pregnancy & kids, people's experience
Most of the infants were seriously ill at birth and were immediately placed in a newborn ICU*.... We heard from our mom and dad that it is often very difficult to bind and get to know their baby. Well, the clinic that' s right next to the clinic, and there were a few different entities.
Immediately after being released from the first clinic where I was born, we went to the clinic to stay there while she was in intensive care. "These little clippings of conversations that were natural. There were five week we were in the clinic in her room, what a great thing, and then moving on to her own room where I could stay every single evening with her.
The attachment to your baby and if you have a baby hospitalized in the intensive care unit, how do you connect with him? You don't touch them, you know, you touch them, but you won't keep them, and I recall the first times I probably kept my kid more than other folks would, you know, because that was such a valuable thing, you know.
At that time she was three week old and it was the nurse's turn to say my mother was there and the mother said: "Do you want to keep her today? There was a sharp learning curve there but other parent, such as Maria, described how they were assisted by co-workers in caring for their baby and soon became expert.
So, the nursing staff, I suppose I'm someone who enjoys being in on things and getting things done as quickly as possible, so the nursing staff in the neo-natal ICU would let me help somehow or make parts of the changes. Cause obviously, you know, especially when your baby is in a smallincubator, you want to do anything you can do by tapping them or connecting with them that you want.
so you have, you probably have thepad for the first week up to 10 Days just as everything is fixed and also as they were kind of watching the issue and obviously it's not just about the diaper changing because they would often rally the issue and weight the issue and like things so there were kind of extra things you would do you as part of the change diaper that was necessary for them to watch it.
And so I'm thinking to myself, I mean you kind of get used to handling the breakable little baby that's, you know, so small, and then you got this, you know, you're scared of ripping the cut, injuring something, and then the stoma* would hemorrhage, and you kind of have to get used to the fact that it's hemorrhaging.
And I think it was made clear to me very early on that the trial of getting him out, I suppose you always think about how I bring him home, how I get him out. I realized that I had to make friends with him in order to bring him home and to take care of him at home, I had to get used to it.
It was really fun, because the head sister always said, "Oh, you'll be so good at it, you'll tell me how to do it in a few short months, oh, you'll be so good at cuttin' out, because obviously, you know, you'll get on the cuttin' out scene.
You will tell me how it works, how it works best," so and that came to pass, you become a little bit of an authority, because obviously you are learning that because of its shape and exactly where it fits, a certain ostomy pouch wouldn't adhere very well because, you know it would be too close to the kind of gastric bend, so, you know, it's surprising how you become a little bit of an authority on these things.
Surgeons can split the bowels into one surgery and place the two ends on the abdominal walls. It is usually a transient condition to get the intestine or gut to sleep and be healed. When Joe was pregnant she hadn't expected how difficult it would be to connect with her new girl and be a mother if she couldn't remain close to the family.
Exomphalos An abnormal abdomen condition that develops when the baby's abdomen is not fully developed in the uterus. It was very difficult for Barbara to sit next to her child on the first one. Emphasis was on the baby, and there was no thought of her needs as a just born mom.
It was better the next day. Well, that was the hard thing that everyone had differently, all the nursing staff had a different way of interacting with the [son], wasn't it? A few folks would, a few folks would call him by his name, a few folks would call him baby or baby[last name], one or two times if they even misunderstood his gender, and said they instead of such things as him[laughing].
A few guys would have done it, it was a kind of inkubator, if the cover had been pulled off this way and sideways, because the sides also came down and some guys had the cover up, but the sides still up, some guys would have the cover up and the sides, actually no, they didn't really have the sides down, they did it, some guys would have the cover up and they would have put the cover down.
There were so many different ways of combining what you could do with it, and everyone did it differently, and that was what was difficult to process, because whenever you walked in, you walked through the door into the unity, and it was a crib, and then it was down in the bottom and whenever you walked in,
if you had seen the cover that you thought was a good one for us to be sitting there, resting on the rim, you know, only you can move it or just see or speak and know that it can listen to us and we had our own book under it, you know that we read to it all the way and then there were those times when you came in and the cover would be.
Is that because of his bad shape, and that's why he was shut down? Well, not necessarily, so that was a fixed point, yeah. It wouldn't necessarily be just humans who deal with him in other ways. On the first of the days he was there and the first of the nurses, I think she was my favorite at the end because she was the one who got us into everything and she had the top cover and she was yes and she was very positiv and very thoughtful and I felt very comfortable with [son] in her custody, then you would have other guys who would say that you know that you have the bottom cover, you know, he's a very sick baby, you know, we have to have him.
Don't even take off the ceiling that was on top of him because of the lighting. He was a full time baby, now I can hear a premature baby, you know, would be much more delicate because they were up and, you know, there are lamps in the blankets and, I don't know just such things, I just wish there was a little more.
A number of mothers and fathers have described how "useless" or "helpless" they feel and can do nothing for their baby. At first Joe said, "Everything you had in mind for your little cub days wasn't there at all, because you couldn't even switch a diaper....... All you could do was caress her butt.
" She described the sense of being like a robotic in the NICU throughout her son's years. For all the six whole month [s] that [son] has been in the infirmary, it will seem like a really terrible thing, but I didn't want to make him feel like a really terrible thing, or bind myself to him, in case something happens, only when he came home, I felt that I was like a maternal bonding, I think I put everything on ice, actually, emotion or even loving or caring, even for [partner] went as literal, I was like a robotic during the whole thing.
As I would see the other mothers who read to their children tales about their baby in the hatchery or a mother who was changing teddy bears all the time like every few ours, who was turning teddy bears around the hatchery because that's all you could do, you couldn't do anything like you couldn't give him food because it wasn't the only thing I could do every three ours, go and get my breast pump so they could ice them so he was willing to take it.
No, it wasn't like that until [son] was two years old, we could grab him, but even then he was lying on a cushion and he had wire and I was just like he was grabbing a puppet and it was pretty uncomfortable because there was wire everywhere and yes, it was like it didn't touch me feeling like I was snuggling my kid, it felt like I was snuggling a puppet, so.
So the whole thing was just a genuine one, like I don't think until you actually did it, you did it and I think I was young too, I just didn't know how to take it the way I was. Coming out of that little bits of the clouds, he actually awoke and was in one, quite literally, down as the capsule went, essentially he awoke and he awoke with a smile and that was it, up to that point even in the newborn where I felt there was no point seated beside him,
beside him, because I didn't felt like a mother, because you know that there were physicians and nursing staff and everyone looks after him and as if there were only certain things I could actually try out, I couldn't even replace his diaper because he had so many strings and I was afraid of it.
All of them bathe - as if I couldn't really help them bathe, so I just couldn't give him any food, I just felt like an adorn sitting next to him and just felt like there was no sense. As soon as he awoke and he began to cry, and then he saw me and him, as if he began to smile and it was as if I had it on tape and he could really like to listen to my voice and as if I was walking around on the other side, he would see me walking around on the other side, and it wasn't as I thought until that particular date that I was doing for a sake like yes, it was a nice feel for him to smile, it was nice.
To spend a lot of our child's free moments at their baby's side was all that many of our families thought possible and was very important to them. And I mean, I think I didn't give myself enough of a break while she was in there, even though I felt like I could have trusted humans. I' ll probably never keep my mouth shut while she' s there.
and I knew a great deal about the endurses and she knew about me. And it was the small check I had and found the check when you had none. It felt as if I had adjusted to the whole as well as the new worlds, quite quickly and well.
I obviously had this prep to know where I was going, but I don't know it somehow, it's hard because you have no alternative but to handle it, where it's your business, if you can't handle it, then obviously it's something that's not right with you, like that's your baby, and you're going to do all you can for her so that's all I could do for her was sitting next to her crib, so that's all I could do.
So we had to study how to take care of ourselves as well, like one of the things we found hard to do was if we don't go and have a snack then we will die of starvation but still we can't abandon her and that's one thing the doctors were really good at telling us that we should go away and eat, how she sleeps, she sleeps, she's all right, if something happens we'll call you and it'll be like you're as if you were doing it.
If you are at home, you can't leave, you have to cope with a weeping baby when you eat or not, but yes, it was difficult to look after ourselves just so we could take care of her, and as soon as we somehow realized that if we didn't take care of ourselves, we couldn't look after her either, and then we realized that you have no other option.
Yeah and just, you know, very well, so that they say, you know we have to have acces to him, which I fully comprehend, and they want to be in a position where they can come rushing in and do what they need, and, you know, I fully endorse that... But I also believe that body touch is really important, especially when you have gone from an area where you are actually worn in someone and can listen to their heart beat to be brought into a very clean area, and, you know, yes, they want to be able to get into a very clean area, and, you know, they do, they want to be able to be able to get into a very clean area, and they want to be able to come in and do what they need, and, you know, they need to be able to do, what they need, and I fully endorse that...
It' how good no, we're gonna stay here with our baby, they were how good, you can't stay here. Obviously we hadn't been asleep at that time, and at first I was standing there and finally they got a place. Why was that so important to you? Why was it important that we were there with Isaac?
I think you know that when you go through the most fantastic thing that you can imagine, I think you have a right to have someone with you, and as an grown-up, when I go through something really difficult, I want someone, want someone with me, and so for a kid, how much more important.
At the end I had to be able to say that I had been there for him, that if there was nothing I could do but keep an eye on him, that I had done it. You think the employees understand that?
However, the employees assisted Alix in caring for him the evening before his operation, which they greatly valued. "He said I was dying to keep him." Yes, it was that I obviously had him on a Thursday on which I couldn't, I couldn't get through the clinic until Friday, but I was a rather resolute person, so within six work time I was awake and I was locomotion around because relative quantity wouldn't stop me at all.
I have to confess that the nursing, as I said, was brillant and they actually had a registered Nurse and they let me go the next morning and see [Son], so I went to [Son] on Friday. That was the first that I could keep him and actually connect with him, because I mean I went 27 and a half hour without even seeing him, you know Simon, he obviously remained in the one clinic that I was in, the other clinic, so not only had I dropped my baby, but also my man, you know, my spouse, who was, we were together in it and the other night I was there I was, I was, I mean, I was alone, you know, that was a night and I barely sleep.
I' ll never remember to sit at the end of the cot and the nurse who came by sobbed my whole guts out and she was like "Are you okay?" and I was like "No," and I turned around and said that I loathed Simon because he was there, he was with [son], I should have been there, you know what I mean and, you know, there was this side of it and it was like "It's okay, don't worry".
And then this was the very first times when you know it, when she called and she actually called the children's clinic to see what [son] it was like in the midnight, you know, I was already walking from 12 p.m. until about noon, when it was easy one or two a.m. when it all went down.
And all I'm saying is, you know, he's okay and that's it. But, you know, she says oh, but the next morning I was up and down and I was like I had to go, I had to go and see him, I had to go and see him.
And, you know, I was acquainted with the head sister of [son] and everything else in that direction, so that I actually felt part of it at that time. Do you know, as soon as I left, you know, I was in a chair, someone said, Simon, that's what this bike does, that's what this bike does, because he obviously had everything and everything and you couldn't see him for sticks and, you know, this and that.
This was the first fucking moment that I had actually seen [son] for [son], I didn't see the break or anything that I saw him as a little kid, you know, a baby. So you know, I turned around and asked the nursing staff if I could keep him because that's what I wanted to do, I just wanted to keep him, that's it.
It took two of them, didn't it, it took two of them to get him out, two of them to get him out, two of them to get him out, and they put him on me and that was it, there was no going back, there was no going back, there was no going back, it was, that was the point where I realized we had a struggle, but it, you know what I mean, it could have been a hell of a hell of a lot harder, you know when,
if you hold this valuable little bunch in your hands, it's like okay, you know that you have this issue, but that doesn't really matters, because you're here, you're here and that was all that was important, you know, and you think, but that sense was that it was just that I was able to snuggle up with him at last and you know something that should have been happening for obvious purposes, but, you know, it should have been happening as soon as he was born and.....
Cause you' still going back to the fact that the "why me? "You know, and all that shit and, you know, you think about all the other, other girls, you know, they have their baby and they're totally sane and you miss it all and I'll never get it back, but I don't think I'd have it any other way because, you know, he's an awesome killer, he's a pretty young man now, you know, but it still doesn't make it any simpler.
Yes, they were really astonishing, you know, don't get me wrong, we were there 17 week, so there were periods when things could have been better like any other, you know I'm not, I mean I'm a registered nurse myself, I've worked in many different areas of health care and I know that errors occur, things do, it's how it's done right and I think you know,
we have had good experience and we have had poor experience, but in general the employees are very, very committed to their jobs and they really take really good care of your baby and that is a great deal because he is my baby and I think you are forgetting that through this whole thing because and you have to remember yourself that this is my baby.
When I want to hug him, I'll hug him, when I want to switch him, I'll accuse him, and, you know, the first diaper switch is a big deal, you know, I mean, I didn't keep Bobby until he was six and, you know, not keeping your baby for six is tough because you want to move him, you want to keep him safe and I think when Bobby actually got NEC*, I didn't keep Bobby for 17 of those 17 so that was tough.
Necrotizing intestinal inflammation (NEC) NEC is a severe intestinal disease affecting very young infants. Infants can become seriously ill and an operation may be necessary to eliminate affected parts of the intestine. Someday the personnel proposed Antonio to make a flag for his boy, "one of the doctors was looking at me and said, "Come on, Papa, get busy," and she asked me to make a name, put a flag with his name on it.
It was a diversion, "but a shift, you know, to be interacting and thinking ahead with your baby, so it was really sweet of her". When Joe described a beautiful time, her eight-week-old girl They helped with the baths and found that she had no cables on.
It got really heavy vocal dislike and didn't let anyone come near it, she screamed every single fucking fuck when you were touching her face, she didn't even like to be petted, or yes, because of the NG tube* and all the pins and the ones that are difficult to have a baby, what do you do with baby's that you then go kissing on her face and you are touching her and you're squeezing her and yes [name] didn't want any of that.
she had never seen a sunny day, she had never been outside before, she had never only been in emergency lights and emergency room ventilation, and when she was taken to the emergency room, it was in the midnight (laughs), I was like'Look[name] stars',[name] was like [head down and imitate hard sleeping and aloud breathing] Oh, you can't see the star.
So yes, there was this one nice time when I had [name] in the bathtub, so they had to take off their screen and she had her NG pipe replaced, so she wasn't wearing anything and I realized that she wasn't fastened to any pipes, so before the Nurse came back into the room, I came, "Come on, come on, come on, come on, come on, come on," I knocked her out of the bathtub and "Look," and holding her to the windows and said, "Look, it's clean wind, that's how the heavens look," and said, "Look, it's clean wind, that's how the sky looks.
Yes, it was nice, it was a little of a, [gasp] we are eight week on the track and this is the first tim that I kept my baby when I didn't have to take care of a hose, cable or cable and I can show her everything from the outside, be it from a 4th story windows in a clinic, but yes, that's what it looks like outside.
A number of our talked teenagers were thinking about how they felt differently connected with their baby than with their mate. And Jane felt that her husbands were doing very differently from her. Yes, I think we are dealing with things quite differently and so I think it started with my pregnancy and I recall, I mean, you know, I was sixteen week old when the diagnose came.
Well, you know, not long after I could sense the baby stepping and all that. And you know, when we got my first girl, you know, my man would, you know, give me a snuggle in my bedside at nights. I' d be on my side and he'd, you know, scrub my dent and he' d feeling the baby kick and all.
Then he did that, although I suspect the baby probably hadn't stepped at that point, and then as soon as we had the diagnostic, he quit. I called him and said, you know, this is out of order because you can decide to back off the baby, but I can't (laughs).
Then I think because I was expecting then, you know, and I had the sense that I had to come to burials and the like, and he just couldn't go there, and he's much more, he's, he's, he's a pretty optimistic person. I think I do, I'm quite a realistic, and so that was just my way of dealing with it, and I think it's hard for men.
Cause you' re bearing the baby or you, you know, you're the head nurse and I'm sorry, I just felt a little dishonest saying that shit. However, I think, and, you know, when there was a big thing, that he went home the same night she was born, and what, you know, could have been that she was alone when she passed away, which is just a horror for me to think about.
Well my attitude to it was that, I think what was happening, he was so preoccupied with making sure that our older girl was okay and that the work was okay, that he had forgotten me a little and our younger girl. I think he held back a little from our younger girl than she was, because I think that's the big deal - if you carry a baby, even if the baby is dying when it's a few ours, you still love that baby and you gave it all those vibrations when you connected it.
But I think it's probably pretty difficult to do that if it's stepping inside you and moves inside you. and I don't think so, and I think he stopped himself from doing that.
See "Feeding the baby before and after neurological surgery" and "Coping with a baby requiring neurological surgery". Footnote Definitions: NICU (Neonatal Intensive Medicine ) A treatment center for severely ill newborns and neonates requiring maximum levels of long-term outcomes. Surgeons can split the bowels in one procedure and put the two ends on the abdominal walls.
It is usually a transient condition to bring the intestine or intestine to a state of recovery and healing. Ecchymosis A condition that develops when the baby's stomach does not fully evolve in the uterus. Hereditary diaphragmatic hernia (CDH) A small opening in the diaphragm that divides muscles, breast and belly.
Necrotizing intestinal inflammation (NEC) NEC is a severe intestinal disease in very young infants. Infants can become seriously ill and an operation may be necessary to eliminate affected parts of the intestine.